Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Top 5 Ways to Encourage Your Church Staff

I'll bet I can read your thoughts.  You might take a look at the picture and think that this post is a little self-serving.  I ensure you that it is not and that I am in no way sharing this for personal gain. Instead, I am sharing it for personnel's  gain.

In my limited experience in ministry (9 years in October) I have seen a common trend among churches.  Now I realize that if you know me personally, it isn't hard to know which churches I have served in, thus making it fairly easy to figure out which churches I am talking about.  I do want you to stay focused, so instead of making you guess, I will just tell you that I have seen weaknesses (of which I hope to remedy with you today) in all four.  That's right, all four of them were weak when it comes to staff appreciation.  Now that I have been completely honest with you, let's examine how your church can raise the bar well beyond the mediocrity that we have come to accept and expect in the church today.  Regardless of how many paid staff you do or don't have, this can apply to every church.  It is right to recognize volunteers as well and I will address that next week!  For today, we will focus on paid staff and pastors.

5) Encouragement: This is especially great if your staff member(s) is a "Word's of Affirmation" person. (See http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ for more on love languages).  At our church, we utilize
"Connection Cards," a great idea we borrowed from another church I served at (which I am sure borrowed it from someone else).  From time to time, take a moment to write our encouragement on the connection card and leave it for the staff member. Tell them why you thank God for them and let them know you are praying for them.....you are praying for them, right?

4) Date Night: If your staff member(s) is married and has children, they probably don't get out very much.  Offer to watch the kids at your place, at their place or at the church. Have someone with you and plan on keeping them for a couple of hours. If you're uncomfortable watching the kids, offer to pay for the couple to go have dinner and let them arrange a baby sitter.  You can adjust this as you need to, but what is important is that you show them you are encouraging their relationship. You want to see them grow together and bond and as much as we love our kids, they can make this challenging.

3) Small Card/Gift: If you don't know when their birthday is, you should ask. I don't make a big deal out of mine, but if someone asks, I will tell them.  For your staff, go the extra mile to find out and drop them a small card or gift in the mail.  The staff member will truly appreciate the fact that you took the time to think of them. It affirms them and helps them know that you care. You don't need to spend a lot of money on this and usually $5 is plenty!

2) Talk to Them: Many Pastors and Staff don't get to enjoy the luxury of having someone talk to them. Usually someone is talking about them and in the rare case that someone is talking to them, it is usually for advice or help on some issue in the member's life.  I can't spend a lot of time visiting with people (outside normal Pastoral visitation time) and chances are your staff cannot do this either.  However, set up an appointment and bake some cookies (or pick them up from the store) and sit down with that staff member and talk. Remember, the key to this is not the food (you don't even have to get cookies) it is to listen.  You like to be listened to and I know your staff enjoys it as well.  Ask them how they are doing. Inquire about their kids and family. Take time to listen and show them you care about them as much as you want them to care about you.

1) Pray For/With Them: You know something. In almost 9 years of ministry, I don't think I have ever once had someone say, "Pastor, can I pray with you?" unless something was going on.  It might just be me, but if it isn't, then you should consider praying with them.  It is great to pray for them, and you should do this a lot!  However, imagine their surprise if you stopped by to pray for them.  It doesn't take long, but can go a long way towards encouraging your staff.


I have truly been honored to serve on staff with some amazing people and I currently serve with some real gems. I count them as a great blessing and I don't know if many blessed churches truly understand how great it is to have a great staff.  If your staff is amazing, perhaps you should show them how much you care. My question to you is, "what are some other ways to show your appreciation?" I look forward to reading your responses! And now......Off to the river!

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Top 6 Ways to Be Irresponsible in the Church

By reading the title you may think that I've either lost focus of what this blog is all about or that I am using satire and I assure you I haven't lost the focus.

Far too often we find ourselves searching for our own comforts when we come to church. We are willing to sacrifice what the Lord has called us to do in an effort to remain where and how we want to. If that is your goal, you are embarking on an irresponsible life in His church. As an added bonus, here are some ways you ensure you won't become responsible anytime soon. (I'm still in a satirical mood, don't get confused)


6) Assume Everything

I will spare you the inevitable "don't you know what happens when you assume" joke that everyone tells and thinks they are being so clever! And yes, I've done it and thought I was being clever too.  When there are a lot of changes going on in the church or the church is growing and communication is not up to the standard of excellence that it should be, people tend to begin assuming why things are happening. "Why did that music leader change the way he used to do songs" or "how come that guy isn't playing the drums anymore and that other person is instead?"  Those types of questions are harmless enough, but when answered by the uninformed mind, it can be a recipe for disaster. Assuming that the pastor must be micromanaging the music minster or that the guy who used to play the drums must have had a moral failure and has been removed from his position, will simply give the Devil a foothold in your life and in the church. You may begin to become angry or resentful and you are probably completely wrong.  The best solution is for you to simply go ask. Go ask the drummer why he isn't playing anymore. You might find out that he needs surgery on his wrist and the doctor has asked him to sit out for a while. That's a lot different than him having an affair, now isn't it?  Of course, if you want to be irresponsible, make sure you assume the worst.



5) Share Your Assumptions with Others
Once you have been clever enough to discern what is going on without asking someone, now you have a duty to go and tell other people about your discovery! Keeping with the example of the drummer, make sure you tell your Sunday School class that they need to pray for "Bill" because he has been asked to step down from the drums and you can only assume the worst.  Bill and his wife have been coming to church in separate vehicles as well and you know what that means! Don't stop there! Make sure you tell your dearest friends over lunch, post prayer requests on Facebook for an "unspoken drummer and his estranged wife" and for Pete's sake, tell everyone you can so they don't have to figure it out for themselves.  This will ensure your irresponsibility remains intact!


4) Blame Others
This next one will really help maintain your irresponsible reputation! I can pretty much guarantee it and if I am wrong, it has to be someone else's fault! If you have any responsibilities in the church, and if you do I don't know why since working in the church is reserved for the paid staff only!  But, if you do, make sure you don't take responsibility when things go wrong. After all, there has to be someone else who caused the problem.  If you start taking the blame for things, people will respect you and believe that you are leadership material. With leadership comes responsibility and that is direct enemy of irresponsibility. So please, don't accept blame, even when it is your fault!



3) Wait for Someone Else to do Something
Of all my ideas I have to say this is the best ever!  You can already picture this I am sure. You are sitting in the sanctuary and the "Minster of Announcements" (everyone needs a title, right?) asks for people to sign up for Vacation Bible School.  You might be inclined to sign up, but DON'T! Sitting there and not saying a word is crucial for you unless you desire to have people expect things of you! To ensure you aren't called on, don't make eye contact with the speaker and by all means if that person does call on you for something, grab your phone, put it up to your ear and say, "Oh no! I will be right there" and run out!  Remember, if you agree to something, you will expected to follow through. Of course, you could always drop the ball and if that happens......see # 4 above.

 

2) Do Everything You Can To Remain Comfortable
I just don't understand why people can't remain comfortable in the church.  Churches have spent a lot of money on making the sanctuary pretty with the latest in high tech equipment.  How in the world could a person not be comfortable. It is your responsibility, no....it must be your heart's desire to look out for yourself! Number 1! The big kahuna! In order to do this, I suggest you do the following: 1) Claim your seat in the sanctuary every week.  Get there early so some guest doesn't try and take it from you. Perhaps you could bring a blanket and leave it in that seat all week long! Hey! Leave your Bible there too, that will help! 2) Make friends with whoever controls the A/C and when you get hot, fan your bulletin like crazy until they go change it.  3)  Place your Bible next to you on one side and your purse (ladies) or keys (guys) on the other side. Don't move them if anyone comes to sit down in that spot, after all, you need about 24 inches on each side to make certain you are comfortable. And by all means, don't make eye contact when someone tries to sit next to you.



1) Complain About Everything
I am sure, if you are doing the other five above already, this one will come with very little trouble.  Face it, you're already a pro, but you could consider stepping this one up a little bit. Everything can be complained about, so you don't have to prepare much. Instead, just look for something and then get upset about it. For example, if the sound is too loud, complain, however if it isn't loud enough, complain.  The preacher will go long or too short, so get ready for that. He won't use enough verses or maybe too many!  Someone is going to cough, a child might cry, the lighting won't be good enough, there are too many guests and you don't know them all nor have they come over and introduced themselves to you and the list goes on and on.  If you find that you are getting tired from complaining so much, complain about that too! 

As you can tell, there are plenty of ways to remain or become irresponsible in the church today! What are some of your ideas?  (...satire off)

Of course, if you want to become a responsible member of your church, be sure to do the opposite of this post =)


And now.....Off to the River!!!


Wednesday, June 10, 2015

The Top 4 Weakest Areas of Volunteerism in the Church












Before I begin posting the top four weakest areas of volunteerism in the church, it is important to recognize that this is not necessarily the same for every church. An area listed on this post may be the strongest area in your church and what is strong in your church may not be somewhere else. With that being clear, here are the top four weakest areas of volunteerism in the church, according to me....


4) Teachers/Small Group Leaders: Regardless of whether it is the need for people to rock and change babies in the nursery, the need for children's classroom teachers, youth group leaders or adult Sunday school class and small group leaders the chase is always on to recruit more of these people.  So much so, that many times churches are willing to adopt the "if they say they are a Christian, put them in there" mentality.
It's really no surprise to me that we react that way sometimes. In the words of Sophia Petrillo, picture it....  a concerned department leader comes into the pastor's office and says, "Pastor, we need some teachers. We are overrun with (insert age group here) and we don't have enough teachers to teach them!"  If we are not careful, panic sets in and we start fishing for people to teach.  This can be one of the most detrimental choices we make, if we don't vet and truly know who (and what they believe) we are putting into these classrooms. That being said, the need is still great and more than likely it isn't because God has not sent teachers into his churches. It is because those called to teach are not answering the call. 

3) Events/Outreach:  The Great Commission (Matthew 28:19-20) instructs us to "go and make disciples" and one of the proven ways to evangelize is through event evangelism.  Whether it's a Vacation Bible School, Revival, Movie Under the Stars, etc what is important is that it is fully staffed with volunteers.  People need to be on hand to plan the event, run the equipment, assist guests, lead discussion, act as counselors when people have questions about making a decision to follow Christ, set up and break down and the list goes on and on.  If the planning team has done their part, they will know how many people are needed and where they are needed long before the day of the event.  Beyond that, "the best laid plans of mice and men, often go awry" and this is guaranteed if God's people don't answer the call to volunteer and support the mission work that this event is designed to accomplish.

2) Prayer Team Members: Sadly enough, it seems that the weekly "prayer meeting" that many older generations were accustomed to as a regular part of their week has gone away.  It hasn't gone away because of some young pastor who decided to kill it (although I am sure that has happened in some churches).  It has gone away, or is on life-support, because corporate prayer is not an important part of the believer's life anymore.  In fact, the discipline of prayer takes a backseat in many Christians lives, especially young and new Christians. When do you pray? When someone asks? When trouble is lurking? What about the constant state of prayer, daily and when things are going well?  Unfortunately, because prayer life has dwindled, people don't see it as important to gather with other believers and pray.  Yet, not one major thing took place in the Bible without prayer first. This is probably a heart issue more than anything, but it is a weak place in the church and must be strengthened. 

1) Disciple Makers: The Great Commission, mentioned earlier, instructs us to make disciples.  After baptism, we are to teach them to obey Christ's commands.  The first century church did this well and had small groups meeting in homes. I don't have a problem with churches meeting together for "bigger" corporate worship, but if that is all they are doing, they are doing things wrong.  Whether you call them small groups, life groups, community groups or whatever, people need to gather in these smaller groups to pray, study and fellowship.  But that isn't enough either!  Every believer should be taking a younger believer under their wing and teaching them.  It can be done over a weekly breakfast or lunch.  It can be done monthly, if need be, at someone's home or switch up the location from time to time.  What is important is that we take time to disciple other people. The mistake is that people figure the pastor/staff will handle this on Sunday.  Your pastor/staff have their responsibilities in this area, but couldn't possibly disciple everyone. It takes believers (disciples) making other disciples, who in turn, make other disciples.  Who are you spending time with in discipleship?  

I am sure you can add more to this list and would love to hear from you! Post your thoughts below and add to the list of weak areas of volunteerism in the church! Now......off to the river.

Friday, December 6, 2013

7 Prayers for the Church - C.Proctor

      Some churches have church covenants and others don't.  Some require signatures and still, others don't.  Some ask prospects to attend a class, regardless of how long they've been saved, and others just invite them to come down front. 
      
      Regardless of how your church operates, one thing that we can strongly agree on is the need for you to pray.  Here are seven prayer needs everyone can pray to lift their church up before the Lord.



1.  The Pastoral Leadership
            The Senior Pastor/Pastoral Staff have some of the most difficult and yet very rewarding positions given to man. It has been said many times, the Pastor has a target on him the moment he is ordained.  If the enemy can bring down a pastor, he can bring down the church.  Praying for your pastor and other pastoral staff members is something we should do, even when we don't agree with something they have done.  That's right! Even if the Pastor has moved forward with a series on marriage, something you've heard for 40 years, and you're not even married, you still have an obligation......a responsibility.....no....the honor!  You still have the honor to take your leaders before God and pray his guidance, blessings and direction for them.  In fact, not doing so, can leave your leaders open to attacks and praying for them will also help you see them the way God does, despite your pastor's announcement of a three month series that you'd rather not hear. 


 2.  The Lay Leadership
                    Elders (referring to non-pastors), Deacons, committees that set the agenda (i.e. finance, personnel, nominating, etc) are desperately in need of prayer.  These individuals are called to help support the church. These fine individuals need your prayer, because just like the pastor and staff, they are tasked with some amazingly difficult responsibilities.  Responsibilities that can never be correctly carried out without God's blessings and direction.  You might think that "if they are that responsible, let them pray for themselves," but, your prayers for them are extremely necessary.  Pray for them before meetings, during meetings, and after meetings.  Petition God's protection around them, because not all right decisions are easy.  Ask God to guide them, removing fleshly responses and replacing them with spiritual ones.  It isn't us vs. them, we are all in this together.  We need to pray like it.

3.  The Spiritual Condition
             We know that the church isn't made up of the four walls surrounding our sanctuaries.  After all, if that is all the church consisted of, praying for the spiritual condition of it wouldn't make very much sense, now would it?   Since we understand that the church is made up of every believer, it is susceptible to spiritual warfare and attacks, including dryness and apathy.  We should be dillgent in our prayers asking our Holy Father to protect, strengthen, and grow the intimacy that our brothers and sisters have with Christ.  When marriages are falling apart, our duty is to pray.  When our brethren attends services out of pride, we must pray.  When a dryness has overtaken the Body of Christ, we must pray. It didn't catch God by surprise, could it be He is simply waiting on us to.......pray?

4.  The Growth of the Kingdom
           It only makes sense that we want to pray for Kingdom growth.  But how does that impact our prayers for the church?   Well, consider for a moment the purpose of the church.  Jesus told us to go and make disciples.  When a lost person trades their sin for salvation, another number is added to the Kingdom.  It isn't enough to pray for Kingdom Growth, it's our duty to pray about the role we play in it.  What can our church do to increase the Kingdom?  What should we be doing that we aren't and what should we stop doing, that we have continued simply for the sake of tradition?  These tough questions must be answered, by God (after all, it's His Kingdom and we are His church) to determine the appropriate steps.  Praying for such direction can bring about answers we never thought of.

5.  The Growth of the Local Body
         "Number's aren't important."   Early in my ministry as a Lead Pastor, I was guilty of saying this.  Many times I would make the comment that, "it doesn't matter how many people are here, as long as people are here."  On the surface, this comment sounds good.  It sounds holy and righteous.  Focused on the people in the pews and not worrying about those who stayed home. But unpack this statement and you can see a detrimental mistake.  All of those "numbers" represent souls.  Mothers, fathers, children, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc.  Each number is a real person. Each number has a real destination.  To count out the importance of reaching our communities is to count out the thousands of souls that hunger and thirst for the bread of life and the living water.  Our prayers to see more people enter the hallowed halls of our sanctuary/small groups/Sunday school is important.  To not focus on the outside, only leaves us focused on the inside and an inwardly focused church will surely shrivel and die.
 
6. Acts 1:8 Focus
             "But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.” 
              
              Acts 1:8 churches are not inwardly focused.  They can't be! It plainly contradicts the scripture above.  Praying to become an Acts 1:8 church is simply asking God to break your heart for missions and the lost world around us.  It starts in our backyards (Jerusalem), but permeates into our state (Judea), continent (Samaria) and all around the world.  Along the same lines as #5, our prayers must be for action!  What are we supposed to be doing to reach all areas of Acts 1:8 for the King?  Praying for direction and seeing it through helps us become outwardly focused.  

7. Yourself
         I know, I know!  I just got finished talking about being outwardly focused and now I am asking you to pray for yourself!  Such confusion!!!  But I'm not actually suggesting you petition God for all your needs.  Not at this time, anyway.  Remember, you're praying for your church.  But then how can you pray for your church and yourself?  Allow your prayers to focus on what God needs to change about you, to bring about His glory in His church.   This is probably the most difficult thing to pray for many.  It might even be more appropriate to be placed at the top of this list, but either way, praying that God will change our hearts, heal our anger, deal with our sin will result in a healthier church.  Just think about it, all of these prayers must be initiated by a heart that is willing to serve the King.  Too often our churches are interested in serving the false god of tradition and pride. Revival starts in the heart of the believer and change begins with earnest prayer.  
 
     These aren't the only prayers you can pray for your church, but in my experience, many Christians don't know what to pray.  My hope is that this will get you started and help get your church on the right path, if it isn't already.


 


  
           
                  

Thursday, November 21, 2013

King and Queens - A VHA Production Review


          Just after 7:00pm Thursday night, November 21, 2013 Headmaster Jeff McCormick took the stage at Southeastern Technical College in Vidalia, Georgia to welcome the hundreds of anticipating family members and friends of 2nd - 5th graders of Vidalia Heritage Academy.  With the spotlight on the Headmaster, who was dressed in attire fit for a king, he started his welcome.  Just seconds into his introduction, out walked 5th Grader Jacob Thompson, later to be known as the Duke of Fast Foods, who boldly declared that this was his job and he could handle it.  As the audience laughed, Thompson turned back to them and introduced the fall performance of King and Queens.

                  For the next hour, the audience was theatrically transformed from their chairs into a world of fantasy, with a very real theme.  As "Brooke" played by Julie Catron, falls asleep during a tour of a medival castle, she dreams that she's back in the times of knights, kings and queens.  Through the well written story, Brooke learns from a carpenter, watchers later understand to symbolize Jesus Christ, that the world has many temporal offerings, none of which can bring everlasting joy and peace. She learns that the carpenter's Father has everything anyone could possibly want and need.  All they have to do is be willing to follow the carpenter to his father's kingdom.
               
                With outstanding performances of 19 other cast members and an enormous ensemble of vocal talent comprising of the rest of the 2nd - 5th graders, the play was truly a success bringing about the most important story of all, in a fun, exciting and hilarious 60 minute revue. Regardless that the cost of tickets help the school in many ways, the mere $10 was extremely reasonable for parents and family to sit back and allow the Gospel of Christ to be presented out of the mouths of babes.

               Weaved seamlessly through the play were fantastic visuals and beautiful music performed by the students. From the reminder that all girls are beautiful to God and that they shouldn't listen to the lies poured out from the world, to the command that we are to love and treat everyone with love and grace, tears could be seen in the eyes of many adults as the reminder of God's grace and love for us inundated the auditorium.

               In a day and age where great teachers are hard to come by, Vidalia Heritage Academy has once again proven God's provision by providing their students with an amazing faculty whose love for Christ is evident by their desire to serve the King by serving His children.

              Public and private schools across our nation have taken on the unfortunate role of becoming poverty stricken.  With teachers from sea to shining sea pouring out their own money into their classrooms, resources becoming limited, and education restrictions become stricter, it's a wonder why teachers take positions at private schools in small communities that can't offer the level of state pay, benefits and retirement that many public schools can.  It's a wonder, that is, until you meet the teachers of Vidalia Heritage Academy.  Once you do, it won't take long for you to realize that their remuneration comes in the form of more than money and benefits.  It comes from knowing that they are free to pour the love of Christ into the lives of children. To be able to step out in faith, and watch the Lord guide your path, keeps these warriors in our classrooms.  Thank God for the many blessings that He has made available at Vidalia Heritage Academy.

            Another VHA success story and once again my hat must be tipped to the hardworking faculty and staff of the school.  To the students that aren't ashamed to love Christ in a world where it's not popular to do so.  And to the parents who invest the things of God into their children by supporting VHA.

           I didn't just enjoy another performance.  I was reminded of how special we are to God, something that we all should be reminded of daily, so we can truly appreciate it.  There was a powerful message delivered tonight.....and that sermon, boys and girls, will preach!



C. Proctor




Tuesday, August 13, 2013

What if I don't feel like smiling?

Originally posted as part of the Scroll newsletter - The week of April 17, 2013.

Chester's Note:  As I was sitting down this afternoon to write the article for this week's newsletter, I came across this entry from April.  I feel it is still very much applicable today as it was when it was written (before Silas went home to be with the Lord).  I hope you enjoy it.


A message from

Pastor Chester

Psalm 62:6 Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.

 

When discussing the importance of smiling to visitors, a member recently said, I'm finding it hard to smile today..... Please pray for Silas's family. They are enjoying his last little bit of time here on earth and I know that this time is so precious to them. I know this is devastating to them and life is HARD right now.... my heart is breaking for his parents and brothers who will be left behind to endure the pain of his loss. I know God is able and will comfort them, but I know the sting of losing someone is hard. Jessica's (Silas's Mom) latest update is that she and Archie had to pick a burial spot and make his final arrangements today and that it was something that no parent should ever have to do for a 4 year old child, I agree…

 

            As for many of you, April 15 was more than a tax deadline this year.  Upon hearing the news of the terror attack in Boston, I was glued to the television and remained there until I fell asleep.  Hearing the same report over and over I kept asking myself (and God) “why?”  I understand the theology of living in a fallen world and all, but when tragedy’s take place I hurt like the rest of you. The member’s point was basically, “How can I smile to visitors in church, when I can’t even find a reason to smile right now, because my heart hurts so much.”

 

I think it's so very important for us to remember something. We aren't at church to make people feel welcomed. Although, that is definitely something we should do, if you walk into church with a heavy load, better to leave it at the altar with God than fake a smile and wear yourself down even further. Ecclesiastes 3:4 reminds us that there is “a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Today may be your time to weep, it was for me. But, we must remember who our Lord is and that “Weeping may tarry for the night,
but joy comes with the morning.” (Psalm 30:5b)
 In the midst of sorrow, find encouragement in that Jesus is who God’s Word says He is, for in Christ alone, we find our reason to smile.

 

Walking arm in arm for the Glory of God,

Chester

Monday, August 12, 2013

Lean On Me.....not, really.

Warning:  This entry is going to have a lot of "I's" but I just want you to bear with me before deciding that I need a humility break.



I'm saved
I have a beautiful family whom love me very much and I them.
I have loving parents and step-parents.
I have awesome brothers (and their wives) and a whole crew of wonderful step-siblings, nieces and nephews.
My in-laws are amazing.
My sister-in-law (her husband, his kids) and my brother-in-law are also amazing.
I have some very close friends, some of which I don't see nearly enough.
I coach wrestling and golf at a great Christian school.
I'm ordained.
I'm almost a college graduate (B.S. Business).
I have plans to earn my MBA, Graduate Certificate in Pastoral Counseling, m.Div and perhaps a Doctorate in Leadership.
I've written a book, and the reviews are great...so far.
I have a great position in the Pastoral ministry.
I love the people of our church dearly.
I love the staff of our church dearly.
I am gifted in broadcasting and love to host the football friday programming.
I love writing on my blog and seeing what people say about it.
I've just started a weekly podcast for our church and I'm excited about it.

And yet....I struggle.

I have a tough time not reacting when I get upset.
I have a tough time not being depressed.
I have sleep apnea and if I don't get a good night on my CPAP I can't function well.
I rise and fall.  Some days I'm excited about everything and other days nothing is good.
Most of the time I don't feel like I'm being used the way God wants me to be, so I take on more, just to find out that it was the wrong decision.
I pray hard, sometimes angrily, because of how I feel.


Now, about God.



God saved me
God gave me a beautiful family whom love me very much and I them.
God gave me loving parents and step-parents.
God gave me awesome brothers (and their wives) and a whole crew of wonderful step-siblings, nieces and nephews.
God gave me amazing in-laws.
God gave me an amazing sister-in-law (her husband, his kids) and brother-in-law.
God gave me some very close friends, some of which I don't see nearly enough.
God allows me to coach wrestling and golf at a great Christian school.
God ordained me.
God has almost brought me through college. (B.S. Business).
God has plans for me to earn my MBA, Graduate Certificate in Pastoral Counseling, m.Div and perhaps a Doctorate in Leadership.
God granted me the ability to write a book, and blessed me with great reviews.
God gave me a great position in the Pastoral ministry.
God has put people of our church for me to love dearly.
God has blessed me with a fellow staff to love dearly.
God gifted me in broadcasting and I love to host the football Friday programming.
God gave me the love of writing on my blog and seeing what people say about it.
God blessed me with a brand new weekly podcast for our church and I'm excited about it.



And even though I struggle:

God has worked on me so that I react less quickly when I get upset.
God gives me the strength to climb out of the depression when it starts.
God blesses me with more good nights than bad and the ability to have a machine help along the way.
God raises me up and allows me to fall. When I fall, it's usually my fault or my focus is wrong.
God continues to be patient with me, even though I take on things He didn't assign me.
God let's me get mad, cry and fuss.  But He always holds me until I'm done and then wipes my eyes.

I guess it's all who I lean on as I walk down this road...


Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;   Proverbs 3:5